Bridging the Communication Gap: Embracing Neurodivergent Communication
by Ian C. Vereen
Introduction
Communication is the cornerstone of human interaction, allowing us to share our thoughts, emotions, and experiences. However, the way we communicate isn't one-size-fits-all; it varies greatly from person to person. For neurodivergent individuals who have different ways of processing information and expressing themselves, this variation is often more pronounced. In this blog series, we'll explore the concept of neurodivergent communication, the Double Empathy Theory, and how we can bridge the communication gap by fostering understanding and empathy, rather than expecting neurodivergent individuals to conform to neurotypical communication norms.
Understanding Neurodivergent Communication
Neurodivergent individuals encompass a wide range of conditions, including autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and more. These conditions often lead to unique ways of perceiving and interacting with the world. While neurotypical individuals may find neurodivergent communication styles different or challenging to understand, it's important to remember that these differences are not inherently wrong or inferior.
Neurodivergent communication can be characterized by:
1. Non-verbal cues: Neurodivergent individuals may rely less on facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language when communicating. This can make them appear less responsive, even when they are fully engaged in a conversation.
2. Directness: Many neurodivergent individuals appreciate and employ clear, direct language, often preferring unambiguous communication to avoid confusion or misinterpretation.
3. Special interests: Autistic individuals, for example, often have highly passionate interests or hobbies that they love discussing in great detail. Understanding and respecting these interests can lead to more meaningful conversations.
The Double Empathy Theory
The Double Empathy Theory, proposed by Dr. Damian Milton, challenges the traditional view of communication, suggesting that there is a mutual empathy gap between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. In essence, the theory argues that both sides struggle to understand each other's communication styles, and the onus of adapting shouldn't solely fall on neurodivergent individuals.
According to the Double Empathy Theory:
1. Neurodivergent individuals are often misunderstood by neurotypicals, who may misinterpret their communication as rude or disengaged.
2. Neurodivergent people may in turn, struggle to comprehend the unspoken social nuances and non-verbal cues that neurotypicals use, making them feel alienated.
Bridging the Gap
So, how can we bridge the communication gap and foster a more inclusive environment? Here are some steps to consider:
1. Educate and Raise Awareness: Knowledge is the first step toward understanding. Educate yourself and others about neurodiversity and the various ways people communicate.
2. Active Listening: Practice active listening, which means giving your full attention to the speaker, asking clarifying questions, and demonstrating empathy. Avoid jumping to conclusions or making assumptions about what someone means.
3. Respect Communication Preferences: Rather than expecting neurodivergent individuals to adapt to neurotypical communication norms, respect and adapt to their preferences when possible. For example, if someone appreciates direct language, try to communicate more explicitly.
4. Be Patient and Non-Judgmental: Patience is key in fostering better communication. Avoid rushing conversations or becoming frustrated if someone's communication style differs from your own. Recognize that neurodivergent individuals may need extra time to process information.
5. Seek Feedback: Encourage open dialogue and ask for feedback on your own communication style. This will help create a more reciprocal and inclusive conversation.
Conclusion
Neurodivergent communication is not a problem to be solved; it is a diverse and valuable part of our human experience. To bridge the communication gap between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals, we must shift our perspective and approach and should celebrate the diversity of human communication styles and work to understand and accommodate each other. The Double Empathy Theory reminds us that empathy should flow in both directions, with neurotypical individuals making an effort to meet neurodivergent individuals halfway. By doing so, we can build stronger connections and create a more inclusive and accepting society where every voice is heard and valued.
- Ian C. Vereen MA, MT-BC, NMT